Sustainable happiness

A lot of people think of happiness as a very, very exciting emotion. They expect it to be this constant state of ecstasy — as opposed to equanimity, which is a more sustainable and attainable form of happiness, almost like a quiet joy. It doesn’t look like winning the lottery. It looks much more like sitting quietly and noticing that your life is actually wonderful.
— Hedy Kober, Yale University

I just heard the news about Anthony Bourdain, who was as ferocious about devouring life as a person could be. What a goddamn tragedy this is. What a week of flashing, blinding alarm lights. There is a crisis in this country, and even the strongest and most successful and seemingly charmed among us can't fight it on their own. And there's an enormous gulf, obviously, between a clinical depression and, I don't know, feeling the pain of certain things, which is a natural human reaction to living. Platitudes about happiness are a minor and meaningless consolation against the weight that some people feel can't be lifted. Attending to your mental health is as critical as eating your fucking vegetables, man. But don't ever think it's as easy.

Source: https://www.thecut.com/2018/05/how-to-be-h...

In all of time

There is a vitality, a life force, an energy, a quickening that is translated through you into action, and because there is only one of you in all of time, this expression is unique. And if you block it, it will never exist through any other medium and it will be lost. The world will not have it. It is not your business to determine how good it is nor how valuable nor how it compares with other expressions. It is your business to keep it yours clearly and directly, to keep the channel open.
— Martha Graham, quoted by Agnes DeMille
Source: https://www.amazon.com/Martha-Life-Work-Gr...

Quotable: Fran Lebowitz

That I am totally devoid of sympathy for, or interest in, the world of groups is directly attributable to the fact that my two greatest needs and desires — smoking cigarettes and plotting revenge — are basically solitary pursuits. Oh, sure, sometimes a friend or two drops by and we light up together and occasionally I bounce a few vengeance ideas around with a willing companion, but actual meetings are really unnecessary.
Fran Lebowitz
Source: http://nymag.com/thecut/2016/09/25-famous-...

The secret to life

I believe that singing is the key to long life, a good figure, a stable temperament, increased intelligence, new friends, super self-confidence, heightened sexual attractiveness and a better sense of humor.
— Brian Eno

p.s. I went to the opera last night to see my old bananas friend Draculette play "Tosca" in (surprise!) Tosca. And I loved it! I loved it so much. At the end (11:05) I was exhausted but so happy, strolling with SarahB across the plaza on a dark November's eve, and I could actually feel something old and dear and nearly forgotten step back inside my body.

Source: http://www.npr.org/templates/story/story.p...

Glamour girls

Glamour is very different than beauty. Beauty, to me, is a structural, physical thing that I don’t feel I have. The rules are much stricter. Glamour is a much more inclusive and embracing thing that every woman can take part in. It doesn’t have to be vaudeville, but it’s how a certain spirit shows through, how you put yourself together, and the little touches you do. Glamour doesn’t rely on how big or small your budget is, either. It’s just showing little signs of exuberance, whatever that means to you. Madeleine Albright may not be a structural beauty, but I think she’s really glamorous. She loves brooches, and has a whole collection of these amazing statement pins that she wears for different occasions. That’s what I mean about glamour: it’s exuberance. Most people would look at me like, ‘Are you insane? Madeleine Albright’s glamorous?’ I absolutely think she is because she’s doing the best with herself. That’s glamour to me.
— Poppy King
Source: http://intothegloss.com/2013/10/poppy-king...

Finis.

Hello, babies. Welcome to Earth. It’s hot in the summer and cold in the winter. It’s round and wet and crowded. At the outside, babies, you’ve got about a hundred years here. There’s only one rule that I know of, babies — God damn it, you’ve got to be kind.
— Kurt Vonnegut
Source: http://www.amazon.com/God-Bless-You-Mr-Ros...

Against fear & trembling

Self-respect begins in privacy, whether we experience privacy alone or in an intimate relationship with another. It is in private that we manifest what we have truly learned about living human lives. If we have learned little or nothing — if making the best use of our skills and interests is unimportant, if generosity is merely unprofitable, if the state of the world is somebody else’s problem — then we live in disorder and mess.
— RJK @ the Daily Blague
Source: http://www.dailyblaguereader.com/blog/?p=2...